”A child whose behavior pushes you away is a child who needs connection before anything else.“ - Kelly Bartlett
As a new parent, one might always be anxious about how to bring their child up, and how to balance the strict and the liberal side of you. Sometimes, it is normal to feel like you’re not being a good parent, or what you’re doing for your little one may never seem enough. Discipling a child does not mean punishing them, or hurting them in any way, instead it means to teach skills, in the most gentlest caring way possible.
In some cases, you might find your child behaving rude or inappropriate with their friends or relatives, and they continue to do so after several long hours of talking to them or teaching them lessons through stories. You must be sensitive with your response or reaction to this behavior, as it plays a major role. While discipling your child, first be aware of your own state of mind.
Second connect with your child, ask yourself why is he doing this? And third, question yourself what skill can be taught. Skills like self awareness of emotions, awareness of others emotions, how to accept and honour differences etc. Of Course you have to keep in mind the age of your child. Long lectures are no use to infants and toddlers, here just what's needed is love and connection.
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Common child behavior issues:
This type of behavioral issues may be due to a lack of attention, or they may be influenced by older children. If this behavior starts concerning you, you might want to know what or who is bothering or influencing the child to behave this way. A child’s behavior can cause stress for the entire family, hence it is best to pay close attention to their behavior and correct them immediately or counsel them the right way.
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There is no one way to fix behavioural issues. It depends on the child, their age, and the nature of the behavioural problem. Whatever the problem or the age may be, the first step is to show empathy. As an adult, you should understand that their brain is still developing and is not mature enough to process big emotions or understand the consequences of their behaviour. Try to understand the root cause of the behaviour and try addressing it along with teaching them the correct behaviour.
The most common behavioural issues in children are ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), CD (Conduct Disorder), and anxiety. These disorders can be very mild or severe in different children and can present in different ways, like hyperactivity, impulsiveness, aggression, or temper tantrums.
If your child exhibits persistent behaviours that are disruptive or aggressive, you should start paying more attention to the behaviour. Try understanding when they behave in that manner, what triggers it, and how it settles finally. It could be as simple as attention seeking or discomfort with the environment. If it keeps repeating, you can consult a behavioural specialist for expert guidance.
When your child’s behaviour turns disruptive or aggressive to the extent that it starts hurting them or others around, it is time to take action. If their behaviour is affecting their development, schooling, socialising, or ability to perform tasks, they may need professional help.
