“The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.”
– Denis Waitley
No-one is born with the knowledge and skill of being a ‘perfect’ parent. You need to acquire everything from those that have been there before you and through experience. You will also learn a lot from your health services provider provided you make the right choice for your prenatal, maternity, and other related services. Beyond learning how to take care of your child, there is a lot that you need to understand in order to provide positive parenting that is the foundation for a healthy family unit and a strong, balanced, and successful adult.
At the core of positive parenting is the ability to understand why children behave the way they do and how to best handle the situation. Parents are often involved in a power struggle with their kids and there are reasons why kids behave in a certain manner. In this article, we have mentioned a few points that may help parents understand their kids better.
Some of the needs that drive the behaviours and attitudes in children include:
- To be loved
- To belong
- To feel powerful
- To explore and experiment
- To feel valuable
Things You Need To Understand
You need to talk with your children often and try to listen and not always give commands and instructions. During interactions, eye contact, smiles, hugs and even holding their hand are very important and you must make every effort to tread lightly. Even when it comes to the point where you require giving out instructions, make sure that your advice is always consistent, logical and clear.
You must strive to be the first source of information to your. Always encourage them to ask questions and do not ignore them when they ask questions. This develops a relationship of trust and also insulates your child from street information.
You must also understand that play is very important to every child and it must be respected and given its due time. It is one of the best ways to expose them to an environment from which they can learn a lot. There is no ‘real’ secret to parenting. Just give them love and care and be with them whenever they need you.